"If a person feels he can't communicate, the least he can do is shut up about it"
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As a songwriter and satirist, Lehrer understood that language is rarely neutral. His line skewers a familiar social move: treating feelings as a trump card that cancels responsibility. “I’m bad at talking” becomes a shield against criticism (“you’re misunderstanding me”) and a preemptive excuse for sloppy thinking. The “least he can do” phrasing is key: it mimics moral instruction, but the instruction is to stop moralizing your own incapacity. Shut up, not because silence is virtuous, but because whining about the inability to speak is a noisy way of demanding the floor.
The context is Lehrer’s mid-century sensibility: a performer trained in precision (mathematics, music, rhyme) watching public discourse drift toward melodrama and self-pity. He’s not arguing for repression; he’s arguing for honesty about motives. Either say what you mean, or admit you’re not ready - and spare everyone the little theater of “I can’t communicate” as an identity.
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| Topic | Witty One-Liners |
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| Source | Later attribution: Big Little Book of Jewish Wit & Wisdom (Sally Ann Berk, 2013) modern compilationISBN: 9781603762809 · ID: dSOlEQAAQBAJ
Evidence: ... If a person feels he can't communicate , the least he can do is shut up about it . -Tom Lehrer Happiness isn't something you experience ; it's something you Outside of a dog , a book is a man's. remember . —Oscar Levant. Other candidates (1) Powerhouse (Eudora Welty) primary60.0% Song: "Powerhouse" by Eudora Welty |
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Lehrer, Tom. (2026, February 8). If a person feels he can't communicate, the least he can do is shut up about it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-person-feels-he-cant-communicate-the-least-107687/
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"If a person feels he can't communicate, the least he can do is shut up about it." FixQuotes, 8 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-person-feels-he-cant-communicate-the-least-107687/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.








