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Creativity Quote by Tom Lehrer

"If a person feels he can't communicate, the least he can do is shut up about it"

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Lehrer turns the modern cult of self-disclosure into a neat little paradox: complaining that you can’t communicate is, itself, a form of communication. The joke lands because it exposes how often “I just can’t find the words” is less a linguistic problem than a performance of wounded depth. If you can announce your inarticulacy, you’re already articulating something - usually a bid for sympathy, attention, or exemption from doing the harder work of clarity.

As a songwriter and satirist, Lehrer understood that language is rarely neutral. His line skewers a familiar social move: treating feelings as a trump card that cancels responsibility. “I’m bad at talking” becomes a shield against criticism (“you’re misunderstanding me”) and a preemptive excuse for sloppy thinking. The “least he can do” phrasing is key: it mimics moral instruction, but the instruction is to stop moralizing your own incapacity. Shut up, not because silence is virtuous, but because whining about the inability to speak is a noisy way of demanding the floor.

The context is Lehrer’s mid-century sensibility: a performer trained in precision (mathematics, music, rhyme) watching public discourse drift toward melodrama and self-pity. He’s not arguing for repression; he’s arguing for honesty about motives. Either say what you mean, or admit you’re not ready - and spare everyone the little theater of “I can’t communicate” as an identity.

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TopicWitty One-Liners
Source
Later attribution: Big Little Book of Jewish Wit & Wisdom (Sally Ann Berk, 2013) modern compilationISBN: 9781603762809 · ID: dSOlEQAAQBAJ
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... If a person feels he can't communicate , the least he can do is shut up about it . -Tom Lehrer Happiness isn't something you experience ; it's something you Outside of a dog , a book is a man's. remember . —Oscar Levant.
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Powerhouse (Eudora Welty) primary60.0%
Song: "Powerhouse" by Eudora Welty
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Lehrer, Tom. (2026, February 8). If a person feels he can't communicate, the least he can do is shut up about it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-person-feels-he-cant-communicate-the-least-107687/

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Lehrer, Tom. "If a person feels he can't communicate, the least he can do is shut up about it." FixQuotes. February 8, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-person-feels-he-cant-communicate-the-least-107687/.

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"If a person feels he can't communicate, the least he can do is shut up about it." FixQuotes, 8 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-a-person-feels-he-cant-communicate-the-least-107687/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.

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Tom Lehrer

Tom Lehrer (born April 9, 1928) is a Musician from USA.

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