"If I had known what it would be like to have it all - I might have been willing to settle for less"
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The intent isn’t to romanticize mediocrity. It’s to de-glamorize the cultural script that treats accumulation (career, status, perfect partnership, perfect body, perfect kids, perfect self-actualization) as a moral obligation. "If I had known" sets up a rueful, almost maternal voice; "what it would be like" slides from aspiration into lived texture. Then she detonates the myth with "settle for less", a phrase usually hurled as an insult. Tomlin reclaims it as a survival strategy, implying that "less" can mean clarity, rest, boundaries, and a life not managed like a portfolio.
Subtext: the problem isn’t desire, it’s the package deal. "All" is never just abundance; it’s constant maintenance, competing identities, and the quiet violence of expectations - especially for women whose "all" historically included being flawlessly competent and pleasantly grateful about it. The joke works because it admits a taboo truth: success can feel like being booked solid in a role you auditioned for years ago, only to realize the script never stops.
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| Topic | Contentment |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Tomlin, Lily. (2026, January 17). If I had known what it would be like to have it all - I might have been willing to settle for less. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-i-had-known-what-it-would-be-like-to-have-it-26262/
Chicago Style
Tomlin, Lily. "If I had known what it would be like to have it all - I might have been willing to settle for less." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-i-had-known-what-it-would-be-like-to-have-it-26262/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If I had known what it would be like to have it all - I might have been willing to settle for less." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-i-had-known-what-it-would-be-like-to-have-it-26262/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.




