"If it were not for the presents, an elopement would be preferable"
About this Quote
Ade, a sharp-eyed American humorist of the early 20th century, wrote in a moment when consumption was becoming a national language: department stores, etiquette manuals, and the idea of the home as a display case. In that world, the wedding isn’t merely a private commitment; it’s a community event with an economic tail. Presents function as both subsidy and surveillance. They soften the costs of starting a household, but they also bind the couple into a web of obligation, thank-you notes, future reciprocation, and the quiet pressure to perform happiness in public.
The subtext is a sideways critique of respectability. Elopement represents romance, autonomy, and escape from communal meddling. Yet the speaker admits they’d trade that freedom for material gain, exposing a pragmatic, faintly cynical self-awareness: even love stories have a ledger. Ade’s line works because it’s not anti-marriage so much as anti-pretension. It punctures the idea that the ceremony is purely about sentiment, suggesting the real engine is exchange: we celebrate you, you acknowledge us, and everyone leaves with something to show for it.
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| Topic | Wedding |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ade, George. (2026, January 18). If it were not for the presents, an elopement would be preferable. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-it-were-not-for-the-presents-an-elopement-12560/
Chicago Style
Ade, George. "If it were not for the presents, an elopement would be preferable." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-it-were-not-for-the-presents-an-elopement-12560/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If it were not for the presents, an elopement would be preferable." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-it-were-not-for-the-presents-an-elopement-12560/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.






