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Love Quote by Lily Tomlin

"If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?"

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Tomlin’s line lands like a rimshot after a long, sanctimonious sermon: it punctures the cozy assumption that “love” is a usable solution to anything harder than a Hallmark card. The genius is in the grammar. “If love is the answer” borrows the cadence of self-help platitudes and civic-religious rhetoric, the kind that treats emotion as policy. Then she swerves into bureaucratic politeness - “could you please” - as if she’s filing a customer-service complaint against the entire culture of easy uplift. That courtesy isn’t softness; it’s a scalpel. By staying calm, she makes the original cliché look hysterical.

The subtext is impatience with vague moralizing: love as an answer to war, inequality, loneliness, sexism - all the messy systems that don’t yield to good vibes. Tomlin doesn’t deny love’s value; she refuses its misuse as a conversation-stopper. “Rephrase the question” is the real demand. Get specific. Name the problem. Stop treating “love” as a magic word that absolves us from thinking, organizing, or changing anything.

Context matters because Tomlin’s comedy has always been a Trojan horse for social critique, delivered with a smile that lets the knife in. Coming out of an era saturated with New Age optimism and political sloganeering, the joke reads as both countercultural and practical: affection without analysis is sentimentality; empathy without structure is just another way to avoid responsibility. The punchline doesn’t cancel love - it asks for a better language, and a more honest plan.

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TopicWitty One-Liners
Source
Later attribution: Humorous Wit (Djamel Ouis, 2020) modern compilationISBN: 9781782225829 · ID: c7zXDwAAQBAJ
Text match: 95.00%   Provider: Google Books
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... If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question? Lily Tomlin At the dawn of a new love, the love of the past seems a bad dream. Paul-Jean Toulet Love is like those second-rate hotels where all the luxury is in the lobby ...
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Tomlin, Lily. (2026, February 9). If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-love-is-the-answer-could-you-please-rephrase-26263/

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Tomlin, Lily. "If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?" FixQuotes. February 9, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-love-is-the-answer-could-you-please-rephrase-26263/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?" FixQuotes, 9 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-love-is-the-answer-could-you-please-rephrase-26263/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Lily Tomlin

Lily Tomlin (born September 1, 1939) is a Actress from USA.

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