"If some longing goes unmet, don't be astonished. We call that Life"
About this Quote
The subtext is psychoanalytic without being technical: much of our suffering comes from refusing limits. Longing isn’t simply an appetite; it’s an engine, a persistent tension between inner need and outer world. By naming that gap as “Life,” she reframes the problem from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What’s ordinary about this?” That shift matters. It doesn’t sentimentalize pain, but it also doesn’t pathologize it. It grants permission to feel the wanting while stripping away the shock that turns wanting into self-blame.
Contextually, coming from a psychologist shaped by war, displacement, and the daily work of helping children and families endure what they cannot control, the quote reads as moral realism. Not resignation, exactly - more like emotional hygiene. She’s offering a compact lesson in maturity: accept frustration as the admission price, then decide what you’ll do with it.
Quote Details
| Topic | Life |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
| Cite | Cite this Quote |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Freud, Anna. (2026, January 18). If some longing goes unmet, don't be astonished. We call that Life. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-some-longing-goes-unmet-dont-be-astonished-we-21193/
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Freud, Anna. "If some longing goes unmet, don't be astonished. We call that Life." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-some-longing-goes-unmet-dont-be-astonished-we-21193/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If some longing goes unmet, don't be astonished. We call that Life." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-some-longing-goes-unmet-dont-be-astonished-we-21193/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.









