"If somebody mistreats you, treat 'em good. That kills 'em"
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The subtext is deeply coach-y: discipline beats impulse. Bowden coached in environments where slights are constant and public - recruiting battles, hostile crowds, cheap shots, headlines. His advice isn’t naive optimism; it’s reputation management with moral branding. By treating an opponent “good,” you keep your composure, keep your team’s standards intact, and quietly make the other person look smaller. That’s the “kills ’em” part: social death, not literal harm. You win by making their behavior indefensible, even to themselves.
There’s also a Southern-gospel cadence to it, a faith-adjacent ethic translated into competitive pragmatism. Bowden wraps forgiveness in the language of winning: do the right thing, and it doubles as a tactical advantage. It’s not pacifism; it’s dominance without the mess.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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Bowden, Bobby. (2026, January 15). If somebody mistreats you, treat 'em good. That kills 'em. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-somebody-mistreats-you-treat-em-good-that-169855/
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Bowden, Bobby. "If somebody mistreats you, treat 'em good. That kills 'em." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-somebody-mistreats-you-treat-em-good-that-169855/.
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"If somebody mistreats you, treat 'em good. That kills 'em." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-somebody-mistreats-you-treat-em-good-that-169855/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.









