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Motivation Quote by Bobby Bowden

"If somebody mistreats you, treat 'em good. That kills 'em"

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Bowden’s line lands like locker-room wisdom, but it’s really a compact strategy for power. “Treat ’em good” isn’t about being a saint; it’s about refusing to let someone else write your script. In a competitive culture that prizes retaliation, he offers a counterpunch that looks like grace and feels like control. The killer move is psychological: kindness becomes a mirror that forces the aggressor to sit with their own pettiness. If they were hoping to provoke you into ugliness, your decency starves the payoff.

The subtext is deeply coach-y: discipline beats impulse. Bowden coached in environments where slights are constant and public - recruiting battles, hostile crowds, cheap shots, headlines. His advice isn’t naive optimism; it’s reputation management with moral branding. By treating an opponent “good,” you keep your composure, keep your team’s standards intact, and quietly make the other person look smaller. That’s the “kills ’em” part: social death, not literal harm. You win by making their behavior indefensible, even to themselves.

There’s also a Southern-gospel cadence to it, a faith-adjacent ethic translated into competitive pragmatism. Bowden wraps forgiveness in the language of winning: do the right thing, and it doubles as a tactical advantage. It’s not pacifism; it’s dominance without the mess.

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Bobby Bowden (November 8, 1929 - August 8, 2021) was a Coach from USA.

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