"If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember"
About this Quote
The intent is partly ethical and partly psychological. Ethically, Gibran is nudging readers away from the self-serving story that injury is “in the past” once it’s been delivered. Psychologically, he’s describing how memory is welded to agency. Being hurt can be experienced as chaos; the mind protects itself by blurring details, reframing, moving on. Hurting someone is different: it’s a choice, an act you authored. That authorship makes the moment replayable, editable, narratable - and therefore harder to escape. The subtext is a quiet warning: you won’t just be judged by others; you’ll be followed by your own internal witness.
As a poet of the early 20th century, Gibran wrote at a crossroads of spiritual aphorism and modern disillusionment, when “self” was becoming a more explicit subject of scrutiny. His tone isn’t punitive; it’s observational, almost clinical in its compassion. The line also carries a strategic empathy: if you can’t summon care for the person you might hurt, at least understand the cost to your future self. Harm is not only a moral failure; it’s a souvenir you never asked for, and can’t stop handling.
Quote Details
| Topic | Forgiveness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gibran, Kahlil. (2026, January 17). If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-the-other-person-injures-you-you-may-forget-35453/
Chicago Style
Gibran, Kahlil. "If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-the-other-person-injures-you-you-may-forget-35453/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If the other person injures you, you may forget the injury; but if you injure him you will always remember." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-the-other-person-injures-you-you-may-forget-35453/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










