"If we could sell our experiences for what they cost us, we'd all be millionaires"
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The subtext is classic advice-column realism, delivered with a journalist’s ear for a punchline. Dear Abby wasn’t selling therapy; she was selling perspective to readers who felt alone inside their mess. This sentence comforts by reframing loss as value, but it also refuses the sentimental idea that suffering automatically yields profit or wisdom. The “millionaires” tag is deliberately cartoonish, a satire of the notion that hardship should be redeemable, that trauma should come with a receipt and a resale price.
Context matters: Van Buren wrote to a mass audience in an era when personal problems were often privatized, moralized, or minimized. Her genius was to acknowledge the hidden economy of ordinary lives - the quiet costs people pay to learn what no one can teach them for free. The line endures because it flatters no one: it grants dignity to experience while admitting it’s an expensive education with no buyback program.
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| Topic | Wisdom |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Buren, Abigail Van. (2026, January 16). If we could sell our experiences for what they cost us, we'd all be millionaires. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-could-sell-our-experiences-for-what-they-131484/
Chicago Style
Buren, Abigail Van. "If we could sell our experiences for what they cost us, we'd all be millionaires." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-could-sell-our-experiences-for-what-they-131484/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If we could sell our experiences for what they cost us, we'd all be millionaires." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-could-sell-our-experiences-for-what-they-131484/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.












