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Daily Inspiration Quote by Ugo Betti

"If we have anything kind to say, any tender sentiment to express, we feel a sense of shame"

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Kindness, in Betti's line, isn’t a virtue so much as a social liability. The sting is in that last word: shame. Not guilt for having harmed someone, but embarrassment at the very impulse to be gentle. A playwright knows where to look for truth: not in speeches about goodness, but in the moment a character swallows a compliment, cracks a joke to dodge sincerity, or turns tenderness into something safely ironic.

Betti is writing from inside a culture where emotion is policed by etiquette and toughness performs as intelligence. The subtext is that tenderness exposes need. To say something kind is to reveal you’ve been affected, that you care enough to risk being seen as naive, dependent, or manipulable. Shame becomes a defense mechanism: it keeps the self intact by keeping others out. There’s also an accusation buried here. If kindness triggers shame, it’s not the kind person who’s defective; it’s the room.

Context matters: Betti’s lifetime spans world wars and the rise of fascism in Italy, eras when public language hardens and private feeling becomes suspect. In such climates, sentiment can look like weakness or even disloyalty, while cynicism reads as sophistication. The line lands because it describes a modern reflex: we outsource tenderness to sarcasm, emojis, or “just kidding,” then congratulate ourselves for being realistic.

As theater, it’s economical and brutal. One sentence sketches an entire society’s emotional stage direction: when the heart opens, the face flushes, and the mask snaps back into place.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Betti, Ugo. (2026, January 16). If we have anything kind to say, any tender sentiment to express, we feel a sense of shame. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-have-anything-kind-to-say-any-tender-129657/

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Betti, Ugo. "If we have anything kind to say, any tender sentiment to express, we feel a sense of shame." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-have-anything-kind-to-say-any-tender-129657/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If we have anything kind to say, any tender sentiment to express, we feel a sense of shame." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-have-anything-kind-to-say-any-tender-129657/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.

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Ugo Betti (February 4, 1892 - June 9, 1953) was a Playwright from Italy.

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