"If we knew each other's secrets, what comforts we should find"
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The line lands with a quiet subversion: secrets, usually treated as corrosive or shameful, become a source of solace. Collins flips the moral valence of secrecy. He isn’t romanticizing confession so much as puncturing the fantasy that everyone else is managing life cleanly. If we could see what people hide, he implies, we’d stop mistaking our private chaos for personal failure. The comfort isn’t in voyeurism; it’s in demystification.
As a late-Victorian critic, Collins writes from a culture obsessed with respectability, where public virtue often functioned as social currency and private life was policed by gossip, class codes, and sexual reticence. In that environment, “secrets” accumulate by design. The sentence reads like a rebuttal to the era’s polished surfaces: the drawing-room performance, the moral certainty, the curated reputations. Behind them, he suggests, are compromises, grief, desire, cowardice, tenderness - the stuff that makes people human but unpresentable.
The phrase “what comforts we should find” is deliberately mild, almost domestic, which makes the provocation sharper. Comfort is what you seek from a friend, not what you expect from exposure. Collins threads a needle between empathy and indictment: empathy for the hidden burdens people carry, indictment of the social machinery that forces those burdens underground. The intent feels both ethical and tactical - urging critics (and readers) to swap easy judgment for imaginative access, because the knowledge of others’ concealed lives would make our own loneliness harder to sustain.
As a late-Victorian critic, Collins writes from a culture obsessed with respectability, where public virtue often functioned as social currency and private life was policed by gossip, class codes, and sexual reticence. In that environment, “secrets” accumulate by design. The sentence reads like a rebuttal to the era’s polished surfaces: the drawing-room performance, the moral certainty, the curated reputations. Behind them, he suggests, are compromises, grief, desire, cowardice, tenderness - the stuff that makes people human but unpresentable.
The phrase “what comforts we should find” is deliberately mild, almost domestic, which makes the provocation sharper. Comfort is what you seek from a friend, not what you expect from exposure. Collins threads a needle between empathy and indictment: empathy for the hidden burdens people carry, indictment of the social machinery that forces those burdens underground. The intent feels both ethical and tactical - urging critics (and readers) to swap easy judgment for imaginative access, because the knowledge of others’ concealed lives would make our own loneliness harder to sustain.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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