"If we lose love and self respect for each other, this is how we finally die"
About this Quote
The subtext is doing double duty. “Love” is the outward-facing force: generosity, patience, the willingness to see another person as fully human. “Self respect for each other” is sharper, almost bureaucratic in its precision. It’s not merely feeling warmly; it’s honoring boundaries, refusing humiliation as a social norm, insisting that no one’s personhood is negotiable. Angelou’s pairing suggests that affection without respect curdles into possession, while respect without love becomes cold tolerance. Either imbalance is a step toward the “finally.”
Context matters because Angelou wrote from within the long American argument about who gets to be protected by the word “we.” Coming out of segregation, violence, and the daily abrasions of racism and sexism, she treats intimacy and justice as inseparable. This is also why the sentence sounds like an epitaph for a nation as much as a warning to friends or lovers. The power lies in its simplicity: no policy talk, no abstraction, just a blunt diagnosis that the end arrives when we normalize contempt. The line doesn’t ask for optimism; it demands maintenance.
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| Topic | Respect |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Angelou, Maya. (2026, January 15). If we lose love and self respect for each other, this is how we finally die. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-lose-love-and-self-respect-for-each-other-26701/
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Angelou, Maya. "If we lose love and self respect for each other, this is how we finally die." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-lose-love-and-self-respect-for-each-other-26701/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If we lose love and self respect for each other, this is how we finally die." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-lose-love-and-self-respect-for-each-other-26701/. Accessed 28 Feb. 2026.












