"If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, and that is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are"
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The subtext is proto-modern and a little ruthless: envy is less an emotion than a social technology. It organizes desire by reference to others, and it guarantees dissatisfaction because the metric is unstable. We don’t measure ourselves against people’s inner lives; we measure ourselves against their projected lives. Montesquieu’s final clause is the quiet punchline: “since we think them happier than they are.” The obstacle isn’t other people’s happiness; it’s our misperception of it. He’s diagnosing a cognitive error centuries before “social comparison theory” or the Instagram feed: we overestimate others’ satisfaction and underestimate their mess, then treat that illusion as evidence in the case against our own lives.
Context matters: an Enlightenment thinker watching courtly competition, vanity, and reputation function as political and social currency. He’s not offering a self-help hack so much as a critique of how societies train people to convert well-being into prestige. The intent is corrective and slightly sardonic: if your happiness depends on outperforming a fantasy, you’ve volunteered for a game you can’t win.
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| Topic | Happiness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Montesquieu, Charles de. (2026, January 14). If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, and that is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-only-wanted-to-be-happy-it-would-be-easy-2807/
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Montesquieu, Charles de. "If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, and that is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-only-wanted-to-be-happy-it-would-be-easy-2807/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, and that is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-we-only-wanted-to-be-happy-it-would-be-easy-2807/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.










