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Love Quote by John Irving

"If you are lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it"

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Irving’s line flatters the romance of destiny only to yank it back into the realm of nerve. “Lucky enough” acknowledges the contingency most self-help mantras sand down: many people never stumble onto a life that feels like theirs. But the sentence doesn’t let luck do the heavy lifting. The pivot is “have to,” a moral shove that turns private preference into obligation. Loving a way of life isn’t presented as a quirky choice; it’s a responsibility that, if ignored, curdles into regret.

The subtext is that the real antagonist isn’t confusion about what you want, it’s the social machinery that makes wanting it feel irresponsible. “Courage” here isn’t battlefield bravado; it’s the quiet bravery of disappointing parents, losing status, earning less, moving away, starting over, being the odd one out. Irving’s fiction is crowded with characters whose identities are shaped by accidents, trauma, and odd devotion, and the quote carries that novelist’s suspicion of neat narratives. A “way of life you love” is rarely a clean package. It can be messy, unconventional, even embarrassing. That’s precisely why it requires courage rather than mere planning.

Context matters: Irving came of age in a postwar culture that prized stability and legibility - the respectable job, the respectable marriage, the respectable story you can summarize at a dinner party. His sentence stages a revolt against that tidiness. It’s not a call to chase passion abstractly; it’s a warning that once you recognize the life that fits, failing to live it is its own kind of betrayal.

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Irving, John. (2026, January 15). If you are lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-lucky-enough-to-find-a-way-of-life-you-79832/

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Irving, John. "If you are lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-lucky-enough-to-find-a-way-of-life-you-79832/.

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"If you are lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-lucky-enough-to-find-a-way-of-life-you-79832/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.

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John Irving (born March 2, 1942) is a Novelist from USA.

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