"If you are not being bullied all I would say - cause I like to talk about the other side of it as well - is you know, be someone that nurtures, and if there's someone in your class that maybe doesn't have a lot of friends, be the person that sits with them in the cafeteria sometimes; be the bigger person"
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Her voice here is deliberately conversational, almost messy - “cause I like to talk about the other side of it as well” - which is part of the strategy. Gaga isn’t issuing a moral decree from a podium; she’s modeling the awkwardness of speaking up in real life. That informality makes the ask feel doable: not “change the system,” but “sit with them in the cafeteria sometimes.” It’s a small, concrete action that recognizes what school hierarchies run on: visibility, seating charts, who’s “claimed” by a group. A lunch table is politics.
“Be the bigger person” can sound like a cliché, but in this context it’s a reframing of power. The “bigger” move isn’t dominance; it’s refusing status games. Coming from Gaga - an artist whose career has been built on celebrating outsiders and turning stigma into spectacle - the line also reads as autobiographical. She’s translating her brand of radical acceptance into a social practice: make room, redistribute belonging, and treat loneliness as everyone’s problem, not just the lonely kid’s.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gaga, Lady. (2026, January 18). If you are not being bullied all I would say - cause I like to talk about the other side of it as well - is you know, be someone that nurtures, and if there's someone in your class that maybe doesn't have a lot of friends, be the person that sits with them in the cafeteria sometimes; be the bigger person. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-not-being-bullied-all-i-would-say--20128/
Chicago Style
Gaga, Lady. "If you are not being bullied all I would say - cause I like to talk about the other side of it as well - is you know, be someone that nurtures, and if there's someone in your class that maybe doesn't have a lot of friends, be the person that sits with them in the cafeteria sometimes; be the bigger person." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-not-being-bullied-all-i-would-say--20128/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you are not being bullied all I would say - cause I like to talk about the other side of it as well - is you know, be someone that nurtures, and if there's someone in your class that maybe doesn't have a lot of friends, be the person that sits with them in the cafeteria sometimes; be the bigger person." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-not-being-bullied-all-i-would-say--20128/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








