"If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve, it is the thought that is hurting you now"
About this Quote
The intent is to restore agency without resorting to pep-talk empowerment. By insisting “it is the thought,” Hillman reframes suffering as something maintained by psychic habits: a loop of images, judgments, and rehearsed identities (“this is what I am because that happened”). That’s classic Hillman in its emphasis on imagination as force, not fluff. The subtext is slightly bracing, even confrontational: if the pain persists, you can’t outsource all responsibility to a frozen scene from childhood. You’re participating in its upkeep, whether through rumination, avoidance, or the grim comfort of a familiar story.
Context matters. Hillman was an archetypal psychologist, skeptical of therapy-as-repair-shop and of simplistic causality (“adult symptom equals childhood cause”). He’s pushing against a culture that treats biography like destiny. The sentence works because it compresses a whole therapeutic stance into a single grammatical pivot: “happened” versus “is hurting.” Past tense becomes less powerful than present attention. It’s an invitation to shift from excavation to relationship: not “what happened?” but “what am I doing with it now?”
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| Topic | Letting Go |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hillman, James. (2026, January 17). If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve, it is the thought that is hurting you now. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-still-being-hurt-by-an-event-that-75748/
Chicago Style
Hillman, James. "If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve, it is the thought that is hurting you now." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-still-being-hurt-by-an-event-that-75748/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve, it is the thought that is hurting you now." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-are-still-being-hurt-by-an-event-that-75748/. Accessed 27 Feb. 2026.







