"If you cry over a guy, then your friends can't date him. It can't even be considered"
About this Quote
The intent is protective but also performative. By making the standard comically absolute, she highlights how messy and negotiable these situations actually are. Everyone knows friendships aren’t governed by statutes, yet most people have felt the unspoken “girl code” expectations that arrive after a breakup. Swift gives that silent pressure a punchy soundbite: if someone witnessed your devastation, they’re now implicated. Your pain becomes shared history, and dating the guy reads less like romance and more like betrayal.
The subtext is about reputation management in a world where private feelings become group property. “If you cry over a guy” doesn’t just mean you liked him; it means the relationship made a public mark on you. That publicness is key to Swift’s broader cultural context as a pop star whose love life is treated as content. The quote slyly mirrors her own predicament: when your feelings are observed, they’re no longer yours alone, and the people around you are expected to take sides. It’s funny because it’s blunt; it stings because it’s true.
Quote Details
| Topic | Best Friend |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Swift, Taylor. (2026, January 18). If you cry over a guy, then your friends can't date him. It can't even be considered. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-cry-over-a-guy-then-your-friends-cant-date-10089/
Chicago Style
Swift, Taylor. "If you cry over a guy, then your friends can't date him. It can't even be considered." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-cry-over-a-guy-then-your-friends-cant-date-10089/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you cry over a guy, then your friends can't date him. It can't even be considered." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-cry-over-a-guy-then-your-friends-cant-date-10089/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.






