"If you deny yourself commitment, what can you do with your life?"
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Commitment is the hinge that turns impulse into a life. Desire, talent, and good intentions are scattered energy until they are tied to a chosen course. To deny yourself that bond is to keep everything at arm’s length, dabbling but never building, flirting with possibilities but never finding out what you can actually make endure.
Harvey Fierstein understands the cost of refusing to choose and the power of choosing anyway. As a playwright and performer who helped bring gay lives to the center of American theater, he wrote characters who refuse to accept provisional love or provisional existence. Torch Song Trilogy insists that a gay man’s longing for lasting love, family, and home is not only valid but necessary, even in a culture that once denied such bonds legal and social recognition. The political edge of his art comes from a personal stance: dignity grows where commitment is honored.
The point reaches far beyond romance. Commitment to craft transforms talent into mastery. Commitment to community turns sympathy into solidarity. Commitment to values makes ethics more than slogans. It is the act of limiting yourself on purpose so that depth can replace breadth, so that your days add up to something with shape and weight. A life without such anchors can feel liberating in the moment, but freedom that is only escape dissolves into drift.
Of course commitment invites risk. You may fail, be hurt, or outgrow what you once chose. But the risk is the price of making anything that lasts. Boundaries do not imprison a life; they give it contour. In a world that prizes endless options, the courage to say yes and mean it becomes the truest expression of agency. Time will be spent either way. Commitment decides whether it is invested in a story you can stand behind.
Harvey Fierstein understands the cost of refusing to choose and the power of choosing anyway. As a playwright and performer who helped bring gay lives to the center of American theater, he wrote characters who refuse to accept provisional love or provisional existence. Torch Song Trilogy insists that a gay man’s longing for lasting love, family, and home is not only valid but necessary, even in a culture that once denied such bonds legal and social recognition. The political edge of his art comes from a personal stance: dignity grows where commitment is honored.
The point reaches far beyond romance. Commitment to craft transforms talent into mastery. Commitment to community turns sympathy into solidarity. Commitment to values makes ethics more than slogans. It is the act of limiting yourself on purpose so that depth can replace breadth, so that your days add up to something with shape and weight. A life without such anchors can feel liberating in the moment, but freedom that is only escape dissolves into drift.
Of course commitment invites risk. You may fail, be hurt, or outgrow what you once chose. But the risk is the price of making anything that lasts. Boundaries do not imprison a life; they give it contour. In a world that prizes endless options, the courage to say yes and mean it becomes the truest expression of agency. Time will be spent either way. Commitment decides whether it is invested in a story you can stand behind.
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