"If you kiss on the first date and it's not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it's better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else"
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The subtext is control, but not the cold kind. It’s the kind that comes from experience in public, where desire is often mistaken for access and where women, especially famous ones, get punished for either moving “too fast” or “playing games.” By calling kissing “very intimate,” she reroutes intimacy away from sex itself and toward the moment that socially authorizes what comes next. “Floodgates” is doing a lot of work: it suggests momentum, escalation, the way one small choice can be interpreted as permission for a whole storyline.
Context matters here because Lopez’s brand has always orbited romance as spectacle: high-profile relationships, tabloid narratives, the expectation that her private life should be legible to strangers. This quote reads like a corrective to that voyeurism. She’s not preaching prudishness; she’s describing a strategy for keeping desire from being outsourced to the script everyone already expects. Holding out isn’t about denial. It’s about refusing to let a single, heavily loaded gesture decide the entire plot.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lopez, Jennifer. (2026, January 17). If you kiss on the first date and it's not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it's better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-kiss-on-the-first-date-and-its-not-right-31877/
Chicago Style
Lopez, Jennifer. "If you kiss on the first date and it's not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it's better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-kiss-on-the-first-date-and-its-not-right-31877/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you kiss on the first date and it's not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it's better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-kiss-on-the-first-date-and-its-not-right-31877/. Accessed 4 Mar. 2026.






