"If you let other people do it for you, they will do it to you"
About this Quote
As an educator, Anthony is speaking less to lone-wolf bravado than to the everyday habits that create dependency: letting someone else speak for you in a meeting, manage your money because it’s “complicated,” define your goals because they’re “more experienced.” The subtext isn’t that collaboration is bad; it’s that passivity invites other people’s incentives to quietly replace your own. People who “do it for you” aren’t necessarily villains. They’re humans with agendas, timelines, fears, and blind spots. If you don’t make the call, you still get a call made.
The quote also has a cultural sting that feels especially modern: in workplaces, institutions, even algorithms, the default is to accept pre-made choices. Anthony’s sentence resists that automation of the self. It’s a brisk piece of psychological boundary-setting, reminding you that autonomy isn’t an abstract virtue; it’s a practice. If you don’t practice it, someone else gets very good at practicing on you.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Discipline |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Anthony, Robert. (2026, January 15). If you let other people do it for you, they will do it to you. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-let-other-people-do-it-for-you-they-will-165718/
Chicago Style
Anthony, Robert. "If you let other people do it for you, they will do it to you." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-let-other-people-do-it-for-you-they-will-165718/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you let other people do it for you, they will do it to you." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-let-other-people-do-it-for-you-they-will-165718/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.












