"If you let them kill you, they will"
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The intent isn’t paranoia so much as inoculation. Bukowski is warning against the slow social homicide of bosses, families, institutions, and “friends” who take whatever access you offer. In his universe, people don’t necessarily conspire; they simply consume. The subtext is harsher: the real danger is your own training to be agreeable, to absorb damage quietly, to call exploitation character-building. “Kill” isn’t only literal; it’s the death by a thousand concessions - the creative life drained out of you, the nerve sanded down until you’re useful and numb.
Context matters because Bukowski wrote from the lower rungs: dead-end jobs, alcoholism, rent panic, the humiliations of class. His cynicism comes earned, not decorative. The line doubles as a credo for survival and art: guard the perimeter, protect the inner life, refuse the small surrenders. It’s also a dare. If you don’t set boundaries, the world won’t heroically respect your sensitivity; it will invoice it.
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Bukowski, Charles. "If you let them kill you, they will." FixQuotes. February 10, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-let-them-kill-you-they-will-185240/.
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"If you let them kill you, they will." FixQuotes, 10 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-let-them-kill-you-they-will-185240/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






