"If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were"
About this Quote
That retroactive move is the quote’s sharpest trick. It comforts the abandoned by rewriting the past: you didn’t lose something real; it never belonged to you. The language of ownership (“yours,” “never were”) is doing a lot of work for a poet supposedly arguing against possession. Gibran smuggles in a comforting absolutism: love is either ordained or counterfeit. That’s not how adult relationships actually behave, which is precisely why the line keeps traveling.
Context matters here. Gibran’s early-20th-century mysticism, shaped by Maronite Christianity and Sufi-inflected spiritual universalism, often frames intimacy as a spiritual practice: release, surrender, trust in unseen order. In modern usage, the quote gets flattened into breakup therapy or a meme, but its intent is more devotional than practical. It offers a spiritual alibi for uncertainty: if love is true, it will circle back. If it doesn’t, you are spared the indignity of wondering why.
Quote Details
| Topic | Letting Go |
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| Source | Later attribution: Sometimes They Came Back (Ron Neff Ph.D, 2022) modern compilationISBN: 9781663243164 · ID: S62BEAAAQBAJ
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gibran, Kahlil. (2026, January 13). If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-love-somebody-let-them-go-for-if-they-41408/
Chicago Style
Gibran, Kahlil. "If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were." FixQuotes. January 13, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-love-somebody-let-them-go-for-if-they-41408/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were." FixQuotes, 13 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-love-somebody-let-them-go-for-if-they-41408/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









