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Love Quote by Kahlil Gibran

"If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were"

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Gibran sells detachment in the seductive packaging of romance: a line that sounds like permission to be noble while quietly insisting on a certain cosmic bookkeeping. On the surface, it’s an ethic of non-possessiveness - love as an open hand, not a fist. Underneath, it’s also a test, a sorting mechanism that turns ambiguity into verdict. “Let them go” isn’t only about respecting another person’s freedom; it’s a way to outsource the mess of human choice to fate. If they return, destiny has spoken. If they don’t, the relationship is retroactively declared invalid.

That retroactive move is the quote’s sharpest trick. It comforts the abandoned by rewriting the past: you didn’t lose something real; it never belonged to you. The language of ownership (“yours,” “never were”) is doing a lot of work for a poet supposedly arguing against possession. Gibran smuggles in a comforting absolutism: love is either ordained or counterfeit. That’s not how adult relationships actually behave, which is precisely why the line keeps traveling.

Context matters here. Gibran’s early-20th-century mysticism, shaped by Maronite Christianity and Sufi-inflected spiritual universalism, often frames intimacy as a spiritual practice: release, surrender, trust in unseen order. In modern usage, the quote gets flattened into breakup therapy or a meme, but its intent is more devotional than practical. It offers a spiritual alibi for uncertainty: if love is true, it will circle back. If it doesn’t, you are spared the indignity of wondering why.

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TopicLetting Go
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Later attribution: Sometimes They Came Back (Ron Neff Ph.D, 2022) modern compilationISBN: 9781663243164 · ID: S62BEAAAQBAJ
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gibran, Kahlil. (2026, January 13). If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-love-somebody-let-them-go-for-if-they-41408/

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Gibran, Kahlil. "If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were." FixQuotes. January 13, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-love-somebody-let-them-go-for-if-they-41408/.

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"If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were." FixQuotes, 13 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-love-somebody-let-them-go-for-if-they-41408/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Kahlil Gibran

Kahlil Gibran (January 6, 1883 - April 10, 1931) was a Poet from Lebanon.

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