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Love Quote by Jean Baudrillard

"If you say, I love you, then you have already fallen in love with language, which is already a form of break up and infidelity"

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Baudrillard takes the most overused sentence in the romantic repertoire and turns it into a trapdoor. "I love you" looks like pure feeling, but he insists it is already a technical act: you dont just experience love, you package it in a publicly legible code. The moment you say it, you move from the messy, private event to a sign that can be repeated, quoted, demanded, tested. Love becomes something that can be verified like a password.

The sting is in his claim that this linguistic move is "already a form of break up and infidelity". Not because speaking ends love, but because language introduces distance and substitution. Words stand in for what they name; they circulate; they belong to everyone. Saying "I love you" borrows a prefab phrase with a history of other mouths, other scenes, other performances. Even if you mean it uniquely, the sentence arrives pre-owned. That is the infidelity: your intimacy is mediated by a collective script.

Context matters: Baudrillard is the theorist of simulation, of a culture where signs stop referring to stable realities and start referring to other signs. In that world, confession is never innocent. The declaration of love risks becoming a miniature commodity - a unit of romance that can be exchanged, stored, replayed, used as leverage. His intent is not to ban sentiment but to expose how modern intimacy is haunted by its own representation, how the very act meant to seal closeness can smuggle in separation.

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Baudrillard, Jean. (2026, January 15). If you say, I love you, then you have already fallen in love with language, which is already a form of break up and infidelity. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-say-i-love-you-then-you-have-already-9156/

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Baudrillard, Jean. "If you say, I love you, then you have already fallen in love with language, which is already a form of break up and infidelity." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-say-i-love-you-then-you-have-already-9156/.

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"If you say, I love you, then you have already fallen in love with language, which is already a form of break up and infidelity." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-say-i-love-you-then-you-have-already-9156/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.

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Jean Baudrillard (July 29, 1929 - March 6, 2007) was a Sociologist from France.

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