"If you tell kids they can't have something, that's what they want"
About this Quote
Coming from a musician who’s spent decades writing about restless characters and the push-pull between freedom and constraint, the quote reads like pop wisdom with teeth. Joel’s catalog is full of people trying to outrun rules - social, romantic, economic - and this line frames that urge as a default human setting, learned early and rehearsed forever. Tell someone “no,” and you’ve handed them a storyline: I versus the system. Desire becomes identity.
Culturally, it lands because it describes the mechanics behind taboo and trend. Censorship sells. “Parental Advisory” stickers function like neon signs. The forbidden gets the glamour of risk, even when the content is mundane. Joel’s phrasing is doing work, too: “that’s what they want” is absolute, almost fatalistic, suggesting the reaction is less moral failing than predictable psychology. It’s a warning to anyone who believes control is persuasive: the harder you grip, the more you advertise what you’re trying to hide.
Quote Details
| Topic | Parenting |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Joel, Billy. (2026, January 15). If you tell kids they can't have something, that's what they want. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-tell-kids-they-cant-have-something-thats-140002/
Chicago Style
Joel, Billy. "If you tell kids they can't have something, that's what they want." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-tell-kids-they-cant-have-something-thats-140002/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you tell kids they can't have something, that's what they want." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-tell-kids-they-cant-have-something-thats-140002/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.




