"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion"
About this Quote
The intent is almost policy-like: treat compassion as a discipline you can practice, not a trait you either possess or don’t. “Practice” is the key verb, smuggling in a Buddhist assumption that the mind is trainable and that emotions are, at least partly, behaviors you can cultivate through repetition. The subtext is a rebuke to modern fantasies of happiness as private property - curated through consumption, optimization, or personal boundary-setting alone. In this framing, isolation isn’t self-care; it’s a trap that tightens the more you protect yourself from other people.
Context sharpens the stakes. As a global religious leader in exile, the Dalai Lama has long had to translate Buddhist ethics into a universal, portable message that plays in secular rooms. This line does that work: it reads like a self-help maxim, but it carries the weight of a tradition where compassion isn’t soft sentimentality; it’s a deliberate stance against suffering, including your own. The promise isn’t that compassion makes life easy. It’s that it makes a life coherent.
Quote Details
| Topic | Kindness |
|---|---|
| Source | Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso). Quotation listed on Wikiquote: "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." |
| Cite | Cite this Quote |
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Lama, Dalai. (2026, January 17). If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-want-others-to-be-happy-practice-24776/
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Lama, Dalai. "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-want-others-to-be-happy-practice-24776/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-want-others-to-be-happy-practice-24776/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.









