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Daily Inspiration Quote by Arthur Schopenhauer

"If you want to know your true opinion of someone, watch the effect produced in you by the first sight of a letter from him"

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Schopenhauer’s genius here is his refusal to treat “opinions” as tidy, rational verdicts. He doesn’t ask what you say about someone at dinner or how politely you behave when you meet. He points to the body’s first, unedited reaction: that tiny jolt when a letter arrives and, before you can perform civility, something in you either tightens or opens.

The intent is diagnostic and slightly ruthless. A “true opinion” isn’t your curated stance; it’s the affective reflex you’d prefer not to confess. In Schopenhauer’s world, the self is less a sovereign thinker than a bundle of impulses and irritations, and relationships are tested not by speeches but by involuntary flinches. The letter matters because it’s an intrusion: it demands attention, time, a response. You can ignore a person in the abstract; you can’t ignore an envelope on your table (or, today, a notification buzzing in your pocket). The medium forces contact, and contact reveals where you actually stand.

Subtext: your moral narratives are often after-the-fact justifications. You believe you “respect” someone until their name appears and you feel dread. You think you’ve “moved on” until you feel heat in your chest. Schopenhauer is inviting a kind of emotional audit, but also a bleak reconciliation: your inner life will betray your social script.

Contextually, it’s nineteenth-century pessimism distilled into a practical social tool. Strip away the salon talk, trust the instant reaction, and you’ll see how little of our interpersonal world is governed by reason and how much by desire, resentment, and fatigue.

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Arthur Schopenhauer (February 22, 1788 - September 21, 1860) was a Philosopher from Germany.

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