"If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner"
About this Quote
The rhetorical trick is the quiet pivot from "enemy" to "partner". Mandela doesn t ask you to like your opponent or absolve them; he changes the category. Partner is a word from business and governance, not sentiment. It implies shared risk, mutual dependency, and a future you can t build alone. That shift also smuggles in accountability: partners are bound by outcomes. If peace fails, it isn t just because the other side is wicked; it s because the arrangement wasn t engineered to hold.
Context matters. Mandela wasn t speaking as an armchair conciliator. He spent 27 years imprisoned by a state that wanted him erased, then helped negotiate the end of apartheid without triggering a civil war. Working with enemies wasn t a slogan; it was the price of preventing bloodshed and building legitimacy for a new order. The line challenges the comforting fantasy that peace comes from defeating villains. Sometimes it comes from sitting across from them and making them co-own the future.
Quote Details
| Topic | Peace |
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| Source | Verified source: Long Walk to Freedom (Nelson Mandela, 1995)
Evidence: To make peace with an enemy one must work with that enemy, and that enemy becomes one’s partner (p. 612 (varies by edition); Part 11 (per some citations)). This sentence appears in Nelson Mandela’s autobiography in the passage where he addresses why he accepted the Nobel Peace Prize jointly with F.W. de Klerk. Many quote sites paraphrase it as: “If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.” However, I was not able (in the web results available) to access a publisher-controlled full-text scan to independently confirm the exact page across editions. A secondary source quoting the book with a specific page reference is the QU South Africa blog post (citing “Mandela 612”). Other reputable secondary sources (e.g., UNLV) also explicitly attribute the wording to the memoir but do not provide a page number. Other candidates (1) The laws of Human nature Unity of Universal love (2023)95.0% ... If you want to make peace with your enemy , you have to work with your enemy . Then he becomes your partner . " N... |
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"If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner." FixQuotes, 12 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-want-to-make-peace-with-your-enemy-you-1028/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











