"If you want to make peace, you don't talk to your friends. You talk to your enemies"
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The subtext is even sharper: peace is not purity. It requires contact with the morally inconvenient. Dayan is warning against the politics of applause lines, the tendency to confuse internal unity with external resolution. The phrase also smuggles in a soldier’s view of agency: you don’t end conflict by declaring virtue; you end it by engaging the opposing command, accepting that they, too, have interests that must be addressed or neutralized.
Context matters. Dayan’s career sits inside the brutal arithmetic of Israel’s early decades - wars with neighboring states, cycles of retaliation, and the eventual pivot toward diplomacy that culminated in negotiations like Camp David. Coming from a military figure, the quote doubles as permission and provocation: permission to negotiate without being accused of weakness, provocation to those who prefer moral clarity to messy deals. It’s a reminder that the opposite of war isn’t goodwill; it’s contact.
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| Topic | Peace |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Dayan, Moshe. (n.d.). If you want to make peace, you don't talk to your friends. You talk to your enemies. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-want-to-make-peace-you-dont-talk-to-your-100201/
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Dayan, Moshe. "If you want to make peace, you don't talk to your friends. You talk to your enemies." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-want-to-make-peace-you-dont-talk-to-your-100201/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you want to make peace, you don't talk to your friends. You talk to your enemies." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-you-want-to-make-peace-you-dont-talk-to-your-100201/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.











