"If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far"
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Goleman is writing from the cultural moment that made “emotional intelligence” a boardroom and classroom obsession, a 1990s correction to the technocratic fantasy that life rewards the best brains automatically. The subtext is managerial as much as psychological. “Get very far” isn’t about spiritual flourishing; it’s about navigation through institutions, teams, conflict, and reputational economies. Distressing emotions aren’t framed as truths to honor but as liabilities to manage. That phrasing reveals the workplace-friendly moral: your inner chaos will be priced into your career.
There’s a quiet democratizing promise here - these are learnable skills, not inherited genius - paired with a hard-edged warning. If you can’t read a room, take feedback without imploding, or care about other people in a way they can feel, brilliance curdles into sabotage. In an era where expertise is abundant and attention is scarce, Goleman’s real claim is powerfully contemporary: social functioning is the multiplier, and the smartest person who can’t collaborate will be outrun by the competent person who can.
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| Topic | Self-Improvement |
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| Source | Later attribution: Daniel Goleman (Daniel Goleman) modern compilation
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Goleman, Daniel. (2026, February 15). If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-your-emotional-abilities-arent-in-hand-if-you-49433/
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Goleman, Daniel. "If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far." FixQuotes. February 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-your-emotional-abilities-arent-in-hand-if-you-49433/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far." FixQuotes, 15 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-your-emotional-abilities-arent-in-hand-if-you-49433/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.










