"If you're doing an interview, you need conversational tension. After you talk to them, you're not going to have a relationship with them, they're not going to like you, they're not going to be your friend"
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The bluntness of “you’re not going to have a relationship” is the tell. Klosterman is naming the unspoken deal that governs celebrity and media: the more you want future access, the less you can afford to press. His insistence that the subject “isn’t going to like you” reads less like macho provocation than an attempt to free the interviewer from a contemporary professional trap: the pressure to be agreeable, to become a proxy fan, to trade incisiveness for proximity.
There’s also an implicit defense of the reader. The interview isn’t therapy for the subject or networking for the writer; it’s public work. Tension signals stakes, and stakes are what separate an interview from a sponsored Q&A. Klosterman’s critic brain is showing: he’s suspicious of sincerity as a performance and of friendliness as a technique. In an era when every public figure has a content pipeline and every journalist has a personal brand, he argues for the old, uncomfortable idea that the job isn’t to be liked. It’s to be useful.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Klosterman, Chuck. (2026, January 15). If you're doing an interview, you need conversational tension. After you talk to them, you're not going to have a relationship with them, they're not going to like you, they're not going to be your friend. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-youre-doing-an-interview-you-need-140681/
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Klosterman, Chuck. "If you're doing an interview, you need conversational tension. After you talk to them, you're not going to have a relationship with them, they're not going to like you, they're not going to be your friend." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-youre-doing-an-interview-you-need-140681/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you're doing an interview, you need conversational tension. After you talk to them, you're not going to have a relationship with them, they're not going to like you, they're not going to be your friend." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-youre-doing-an-interview-you-need-140681/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





