"If you're feeling insecure and you need to feel special, the best place to go is somewhere foreign where people treat you as special because you're different"
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The phrasing does a neat, slightly cruel trick. “Somewhere foreign” sounds expansive and romantic, then she undercuts it with a clinical explanation: you’re not adored for who you are, but for being “different.” Difference becomes a currency, and the “special” you receive is revealed as conditional, even transactional. It’s attention that costs you nothing except a plane ticket, and that’s the point. The quote reads like a warning about how easily privilege can masquerade as personality - how being a novelty can feel like being valued.
There’s also a sharp comment here on the asymmetry built into travel. In many places, the outsider gets accommodated, translated for, indulged. That can be hospitality, but it can also be a social reflex shaped by money, history, and power. Thomas is naming the temptation to mistake that reflex for genuine regard. The subtext: if you’re using “foreignness” to patch a hole in your self-worth, you’re not really engaging with a culture; you’re shopping for a flattering mirror.
It’s not anti-travel. It’s anti-self-deception, delivered with an actor’s ear for the line that stings because it’s recognizably true.
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| Topic | Travel |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Thomas, Kristin Scott. (2026, January 18). If you're feeling insecure and you need to feel special, the best place to go is somewhere foreign where people treat you as special because you're different. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-youre-feeling-insecure-and-you-need-to-feel-23386/
Chicago Style
Thomas, Kristin Scott. "If you're feeling insecure and you need to feel special, the best place to go is somewhere foreign where people treat you as special because you're different." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-youre-feeling-insecure-and-you-need-to-feel-23386/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"If you're feeling insecure and you need to feel special, the best place to go is somewhere foreign where people treat you as special because you're different." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-youre-feeling-insecure-and-you-need-to-feel-23386/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.









