"I'll tell you what I did need to learn was tolerance, and I think I've been actually given a daily opportunity to practice that, and it's - it's - and I know that that sounds almost like a backhanded slap, and it is in a way because I haven't been successful at it every day"
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The quote’s real engine is the preemptive defense. He hears the audience’s skepticism mid-sentence and answers it in real time: “I know that that sounds almost like a backhanded slap.” That self-interruption performs humility, but it also acts as a shield. By naming the critique himself, he controls it, turning a potential accusation (this is insincere; this is self-serving) into a staged moment of candor. The admission “and it is in a way” is a tiny concession offered to buy credibility.
Context matters because “tolerance” isn’t abstract in Gibson’s public narrative; it’s a word dragged into the room by scandal, backlash, and reputational triage. The subtext is less “I’ve grown” than “I’m aware of what you think I am.” Even the closing line - “I haven’t been successful at it every day” - does double duty: it acknowledges failure while normalizing it, converting pattern into lapse. It’s an apology shaped like an ongoing process, calibrated for an audience deciding whether to let someone back in.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gibson, Mel. (2026, January 17). I'll tell you what I did need to learn was tolerance, and I think I've been actually given a daily opportunity to practice that, and it's - it's - and I know that that sounds almost like a backhanded slap, and it is in a way because I haven't been successful at it every day. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ill-tell-you-what-i-did-need-to-learn-was-74762/
Chicago Style
Gibson, Mel. "I'll tell you what I did need to learn was tolerance, and I think I've been actually given a daily opportunity to practice that, and it's - it's - and I know that that sounds almost like a backhanded slap, and it is in a way because I haven't been successful at it every day." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ill-tell-you-what-i-did-need-to-learn-was-74762/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I'll tell you what I did need to learn was tolerance, and I think I've been actually given a daily opportunity to practice that, and it's - it's - and I know that that sounds almost like a backhanded slap, and it is in a way because I haven't been successful at it every day." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ill-tell-you-what-i-did-need-to-learn-was-74762/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.






