"Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces"
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The subtext is a rebuke to moralistic honesty. Freud isn’t telling you to “face the facts” like a self-help coach; he’s telling you that your mind already negotiated a contract with unreality, and it did so for reasons that make perfect sense. The pleasure principle - his idea that we seek gratification and avoid suffering - sits just under the surface. Illusions aren’t a failure of character. They’re a feature of mental survival.
Then comes the hard turn: “accept it without complaint.” That phrase lands like a therapist refusing to collude. Freud grants illusions their utility, then denies them their entitlement. Sooner or later, “a bit of reality” arrives - illness, loss, sexual disappointment, social constraint - and the illusion doesn’t merely fade; it gets “dashed to pieces,” violent language for what people prefer to narrate as gentle growth.
Contextually, this sits in Freud’s broader, unsentimental project: stripping the ego of its pretensions. Civilization and selfhood are built on compromises, and the mind’s sweetest stories are also its most fragile defenses. Freud’s intent isn’t to banish illusion; it’s to prepare you for the crash, and to suggest that the complaint is part of the illusion too.
Quote Details
| Topic | Truth |
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| Source | Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents (1930). — passage on illusions and reality commonly cited from this work (English translations available in standard editions). |
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Freud, Sigmund. (2026, January 18). Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/illusions-commend-themselves-to-us-because-they-21156/
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Freud, Sigmund. "Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/illusions-commend-themselves-to-us-because-they-21156/.
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"Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/illusions-commend-themselves-to-us-because-they-21156/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2026.










