"I'm a four star general in this thing, and you don't rise to the ranks of a four star general by hanging about the house being the perfect dad"
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The sly pivot is "in this thing". He never names the industry, the ambition, the ego. That vagueness is the point. Acting, like any high-status grind, thrives on euphemism: it is always "the work", "the business", "the hustle". By keeping it abstract, Elliott lets the audience plug in whatever system they already respect, then smuggle in the cost.
"Perfect dad" lands as both self-defense and indictment. Nobody expects perfection; invoking it makes ordinary parenting sound like a fussy luxury, something soft people demand when they do not understand the mission. The subtext is older American masculinity under pressure: provider-as-hero, family-as-homefront, tenderness as a distraction from duty. In a culture that rewards devotion to work and calls it sacrifice, the line exposes the bargain: you can be exceptional in public or fully present in private, but rarely both. Elliott is not asking forgiveness so much as insisting on a promotion-worthy logic for why he never came home.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Elliott, Sam. (2026, January 16). I'm a four star general in this thing, and you don't rise to the ranks of a four star general by hanging about the house being the perfect dad. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-a-four-star-general-in-this-thing-and-you-dont-123541/
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Elliott, Sam. "I'm a four star general in this thing, and you don't rise to the ranks of a four star general by hanging about the house being the perfect dad." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-a-four-star-general-in-this-thing-and-you-dont-123541/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I'm a four star general in this thing, and you don't rise to the ranks of a four star general by hanging about the house being the perfect dad." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-a-four-star-general-in-this-thing-and-you-dont-123541/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









