"I'm a very sympathetic person, but that doesn't always come across in my work because I'm too busy being mad at everything"
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The subtext is defensive and disarming at once. By claiming sympathy, she blocks the easy caricature of Lunch as merely abrasive, nihilistic, or shock-for-shock’s-sake. Then she undercuts that claim with a shrugging punchline: yes, she’s mad at everything. The humor is dry, but it’s also strategic; it turns potential critique (“your work is harsh”) into an intentional aesthetic stance. If tenderness doesn’t “come across,” that’s not a failure of expression. It’s a refusal to package care in palatable form.
Context matters. Lunch emerged from late-70s/80s New York’s no-wave ecosystem, where noise, confrontation, and anti-gloss were moral positions, not just sounds. For women in those scenes, softness was often treated as a trap: be agreeable and you disappear; be furious and you’re “difficult.” Lunch flips that bind. Her anger reads less like personal temperament and more like an ethical response to violence, hypocrisy, and cultural complacency. Sympathy, in her telling, isn’t cancelled by rage - it’s what fuels it.
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| Topic | Anger |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lunch, Lydia. (2026, January 15). I'm a very sympathetic person, but that doesn't always come across in my work because I'm too busy being mad at everything. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-a-very-sympathetic-person-but-that-doesnt-161327/
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Lunch, Lydia. "I'm a very sympathetic person, but that doesn't always come across in my work because I'm too busy being mad at everything." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-a-very-sympathetic-person-but-that-doesnt-161327/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I'm a very sympathetic person, but that doesn't always come across in my work because I'm too busy being mad at everything." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-a-very-sympathetic-person-but-that-doesnt-161327/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.






