"I'm living by example by continuing on with my career and having a full, rich life, and I am incidentally gay"
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The small word “incidentally” does the heavy lifting. It demotes sexuality from headline to footnote, a reversal of the way entertainment media has historically treated queer people as either scandal or symbol. De Rossi isn’t denying being gay; she’s refusing to let it be the organizing principle of her narrative. The subtext: you don’t get to reduce me to a single trait, even a politically charged one. It’s an assertion of authorship over her own story, a boundary set in plain language.
Context sharpens the intent. Coming out as an actress in an industry long calibrated to heterosexual marketability, she’s pushing against the idea that queerness is incompatible with mainstream success or “a full, rich life.” The line also nods to the generational shift in LGBTQ visibility: not the closet-versus-confession binary, but the insistence that normalcy isn’t assimilation, it’s freedom from constant explanation. Her career becomes the argument, her happiness the evidence, and the label an aside.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Rossi, Portia de. (2026, January 16). I'm living by example by continuing on with my career and having a full, rich life, and I am incidentally gay. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-living-by-example-by-continuing-on-with-my-97843/
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Rossi, Portia de. "I'm living by example by continuing on with my career and having a full, rich life, and I am incidentally gay." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-living-by-example-by-continuing-on-with-my-97843/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I'm living by example by continuing on with my career and having a full, rich life, and I am incidentally gay." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-living-by-example-by-continuing-on-with-my-97843/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.


