"I'm not a nice person"
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A little grenade of a sentence, "I'm not a nice person" works because it refuses the cheapest form of moral currency in American public life: niceness as proof of virtue. Coming from Barbara Ehrenreich, the writer who spent a career puncturing the feel-good myths of self-help culture, corporate optimism, and polite liberal pieties, it reads less like confession than preemptive strike. She’s telling you not to expect soothing. If you want reassurance, there are entire industries for that.
The intent is tactical. Ehrenreich disarms the audience before it can weaponize tone against her. Call her harsh, call her angry, call her uncharitable; she’s already accepted the indictment, which makes it useless. Underneath is a critique of how dissent gets domesticated: women, especially, are trained to package truth in friendliness, to soften edges so nobody feels accused. Ehrenreich declines the job. She chooses accuracy over likeability, and she knows the cultural penalty for it.
The subtext is also about class and power. Niceness is often demanded most from people with the least leverage, while institutions do harm with a smile and a mission statement. Ehrenreich’s work repeatedly shows how cruelty can be procedural, cheerful, and "professional". By rejecting niceness, she rejects being recruited into that performance.
Context matters: late-20th- and early-21st-century America rewarded upbeat narratives and "positive thinking", even in the face of illness, economic precarity, or war. "I'm not a nice person" is Ehrenreich declining that script, insisting that moral seriousness sometimes looks like abrasiveness.
The intent is tactical. Ehrenreich disarms the audience before it can weaponize tone against her. Call her harsh, call her angry, call her uncharitable; she’s already accepted the indictment, which makes it useless. Underneath is a critique of how dissent gets domesticated: women, especially, are trained to package truth in friendliness, to soften edges so nobody feels accused. Ehrenreich declines the job. She chooses accuracy over likeability, and she knows the cultural penalty for it.
The subtext is also about class and power. Niceness is often demanded most from people with the least leverage, while institutions do harm with a smile and a mission statement. Ehrenreich’s work repeatedly shows how cruelty can be procedural, cheerful, and "professional". By rejecting niceness, she rejects being recruited into that performance.
Context matters: late-20th- and early-21st-century America rewarded upbeat narratives and "positive thinking", even in the face of illness, economic precarity, or war. "I'm not a nice person" is Ehrenreich declining that script, insisting that moral seriousness sometimes looks like abrasiveness.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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