"I'm not defined by where I came from. I never took part in the rules and hatred that sometimes go along with religion. But if my parents are happy with what they believe, then I'm happy to stay out of their way. We agree to disagree"
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The key move is how she separates “religion” from “rules and hatred.” That’s not an abstract critique; it’s a strategic disentangling that lets her reject the parts that hurt without publicly humiliating her family. She’s signaling: I’ve seen how belief can curdle into control, and I’m refusing that contract. Yet she also refuses the role of the angry apostate, the celebrity who performs emancipation by burning bridges on Instagram Live.
“If my parents are happy... I’m happy to stay out of their way” reads like generosity, but it’s also self-protection. It sets the terms of engagement: no debates, no conversion attempts, no emotional hostage-taking. “We agree to disagree” is a familiar cliche, but here it functions as a ceasefire clause, the kind that keeps a relationship intact when values diverge.
Context matters: Perry’s public persona thrives on exuberance and provocation, but this is restraint. It’s the softer power of refusing to be drafted into someone else’s culture war, even when the audience is hungry for a villain.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Perry, Katy. (2026, January 17). I'm not defined by where I came from. I never took part in the rules and hatred that sometimes go along with religion. But if my parents are happy with what they believe, then I'm happy to stay out of their way. We agree to disagree. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-not-defined-by-where-i-came-from-i-never-took-75457/
Chicago Style
Perry, Katy. "I'm not defined by where I came from. I never took part in the rules and hatred that sometimes go along with religion. But if my parents are happy with what they believe, then I'm happy to stay out of their way. We agree to disagree." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-not-defined-by-where-i-came-from-i-never-took-75457/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I'm not defined by where I came from. I never took part in the rules and hatred that sometimes go along with religion. But if my parents are happy with what they believe, then I'm happy to stay out of their way. We agree to disagree." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-not-defined-by-where-i-came-from-i-never-took-75457/. Accessed 26 Feb. 2026.





