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Aging & Wisdom Quote by Siobhan Fahey

"I'm still grappling with all the things most people resolve by the time they're 35. Maybe that's why I make music that is relevant to young people. I'm emotionally stuck at the age of 13"

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There is a disarming honesty in admitting you never got your emotional paperwork stamped. Fahey frames arrested development not as a failure but as an engine: if she is "emotionally stuck at the age of 13", then her art stays plugged into the voltage of that age: shame, obsession, reinvention, melodrama, desire for belonging. Thirteen is where identity becomes a full-time job, where every look feels like a verdict. For a pop musician, that’s not a detour from relevance; it’s the raw material.

The first sentence quietly rebukes the cultural script that treats 35 as a deadline for becoming legible: stable, sorted, healed. Pop culture sells the fantasy of personal resolution while feeding on unresolved feeling. Fahey makes the contradiction explicit. Her "grappling" is both private struggle and professional advantage, a confession that doubles as a theory of youth-oriented music: you can’t convincingly soundtrack young people if you’ve fully metabolized your own adolescence.

The subtext is also a defense against the condescension baked into "music for young people". She’s not chasing trends; she’s reporting from inside the emotional climate. Coming from an artist whose career moved through multiple bands and images, the line reads as autobiography: reinvention as a form of not settling. It’s a candid, slightly bleak joke, but it lands because it refuses the tidy narrative of maturity and turns vulnerability into a creative stance.

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Fahey, Siobhan. (2026, January 17). I'm still grappling with all the things most people resolve by the time they're 35. Maybe that's why I make music that is relevant to young people. I'm emotionally stuck at the age of 13. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-still-grappling-with-all-the-things-most-58638/

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Fahey, Siobhan. "I'm still grappling with all the things most people resolve by the time they're 35. Maybe that's why I make music that is relevant to young people. I'm emotionally stuck at the age of 13." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-still-grappling-with-all-the-things-most-58638/.

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"I'm still grappling with all the things most people resolve by the time they're 35. Maybe that's why I make music that is relevant to young people. I'm emotionally stuck at the age of 13." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/im-still-grappling-with-all-the-things-most-58638/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Siobhan Fahey (born September 10, 1957) is a Musician from United Kingdom.

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