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Motivation Quote by Tony Lema

"In choosing a partner, always pick the optimist"

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A golfer’s optimism isn’t just a personality trait; it’s an operating system. Tony Lema’s advice lands with the blunt practicality of someone who made a living missing targets by inches and still walking to the next shot like it mattered. In that world, pessimism isn’t realism. It’s a handicap. “Always pick the optimist” reads less like a romantic slogan than a survival tip for long seasons, bad breaks, and the slow grind of improvement.

The intent is prescriptive: choose the kind of person who keeps the future open. The subtext is sharper. Lema is quietly arguing that partnerships aren’t built on perfect compatibility; they’re built on how two people metabolize disappointment. Optimists don’t deny reality, but they refuse to let a bad day become a final verdict. That’s not naivete, it’s stamina. In sports, the scorecard is unforgiving; the only power you have is whether you carry the last mistake into the next moment. Lema’s line suggests relationships work the same way. The wrong partner turns setbacks into identity. The right one treats them as weather.

Context matters: Lema’s career was meteoric and cut short, which lends the quote a little extra voltage. It’s easy to romanticize optimism after the fact, but his version isn’t airy. It’s the kind that shows up as steadiness, humor under pressure, and a bias toward repair rather than blame. He’s telling you to date the person who keeps playing.

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Tony Lema

Tony Lema (February 25, 1934 - July 24, 1966) was a Athlete from USA.

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