"In life it wasn't what you know, but who you know. I had people who were trying to buy teams and had they bought the teams, I would have gotten to coach because they wanted me to coach. But the people who have the teams hire their friends"
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The intent is pointed: Barry isn’t arguing he deserved a job purely on credentials; he’s saying the hiring market is structurally closed. His example is telling. He wasn’t lobbying owners directly so much as orbiting would-be buyers, hoping ownership change would unlock opportunity. That’s not naïveté; it’s an admission that even he understood the rules. The sting comes in the turnaround: the buyers never get the keys, and the incumbent owners “hire their friends.” The subtext is that the gatekeepers aren’t evaluating coaching the way fans imagine - as a technical craft measured by wins, schemes, and leadership - but as a trust exercise. Owners don’t just hire competence; they hire comfort, loyalty, and people who won’t threaten the hierarchy.
Context matters. Barry’s career was marked by brilliance and friction, and coaching is the job where “fit” becomes a euphemism for personality management. His quote quietly suggests that reputations - deserved or not - become leverage points in a networked industry: if you’re not inside the right circle, you’re “difficult”; if you are, you’re “a strong presence.”
What makes it work is its plainness. No grand theory, just an insider’s shrug: the game behind the game is relationships, and the scoreboard doesn’t always decide who gets hired.
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| Topic | Career |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Barry, Rick. (2026, January 16). In life it wasn't what you know, but who you know. I had people who were trying to buy teams and had they bought the teams, I would have gotten to coach because they wanted me to coach. But the people who have the teams hire their friends. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-life-it-wasnt-what-you-know-but-who-you-know-i-133732/
Chicago Style
Barry, Rick. "In life it wasn't what you know, but who you know. I had people who were trying to buy teams and had they bought the teams, I would have gotten to coach because they wanted me to coach. But the people who have the teams hire their friends." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-life-it-wasnt-what-you-know-but-who-you-know-i-133732/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"In life it wasn't what you know, but who you know. I had people who were trying to buy teams and had they bought the teams, I would have gotten to coach because they wanted me to coach. But the people who have the teams hire their friends." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-life-it-wasnt-what-you-know-but-who-you-know-i-133732/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.



