"In order to have an enemy, one must be somebody. One must be a force before he can be resisted by another force. A malicious enemy is better than a clumsy friend"
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The subtext is almost ruthless: obscurity buys peace, but it also buys irrelevance. Swetchine hints that conflict is the tax paid by anyone who acts decisively, holds a position, or moves others. There's a quiet rebuke here to the timid moralist who wants influence without friction. If nobody pushes back, maybe you haven't pushed at all.
Then she sharpens the knife with the twist that stings: "A malicious enemy is better than a clumsy friend". Malice, at least, is competent; it clarifies stakes, forces strategy, reveals where you stand. The clumsy friend is the real destabilizer, an accidental saboteur who fumbles your cause while believing they're helping. It's a psychologically modern insight: betrayal hurts, but misguided support corrodes from within because it carries the mask of loyalty.
Swetchine writes from an era when social power traveled through networks of patronage and propriety. Her point lands today in politics, workplaces, even fandoms: overt opposition can be managed; incompetent allies can undo you while insisting they are on your side.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Swetchine, Sophie. (2026, January 16). In order to have an enemy, one must be somebody. One must be a force before he can be resisted by another force. A malicious enemy is better than a clumsy friend. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-order-to-have-an-enemy-one-must-be-somebody-107384/
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Swetchine, Sophie. "In order to have an enemy, one must be somebody. One must be a force before he can be resisted by another force. A malicious enemy is better than a clumsy friend." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-order-to-have-an-enemy-one-must-be-somebody-107384/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"In order to have an enemy, one must be somebody. One must be a force before he can be resisted by another force. A malicious enemy is better than a clumsy friend." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-order-to-have-an-enemy-one-must-be-somebody-107384/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.









