"In order to have great happiness you have to have great pain and unhappiness - otherwise how would you know when you're happy?"
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The intent feels double-edged. On one hand, it comforts: if you’re in pain, it’s not meaningless; it’s part of the emotional palette that lets later happiness land. On the other, it quietly resists the modern pressure to curate uninterrupted wellness. Caron is pushing back on the idea that a good life looks like a steady, spotless line. She’s arguing for texture.
The subtext is also a little protective, even fatalistic: you don’t control whether life hands you “great pain,” but you can refuse to let it disqualify you from “great happiness.” There’s a performer’s realism here, the awareness that bright moments often come with a shadow, and that the audience (or the world) is always ready to call joy naive unless it has been earned.
Context matters: Caron’s era of stardom sold glamour while quietly demanding endurance. Her quote punctures that sheen. It invites a less Instagrammable truth: happiness isn’t the absence of unhappiness; it’s the ability to recognize the light because you’ve walked through the dark.
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| Topic | Happiness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Caron, Leslie. (2026, January 15). In order to have great happiness you have to have great pain and unhappiness - otherwise how would you know when you're happy? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-order-to-have-great-happiness-you-have-to-have-133925/
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Caron, Leslie. "In order to have great happiness you have to have great pain and unhappiness - otherwise how would you know when you're happy?" FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-order-to-have-great-happiness-you-have-to-have-133925/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"In order to have great happiness you have to have great pain and unhappiness - otherwise how would you know when you're happy?" FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-order-to-have-great-happiness-you-have-to-have-133925/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.











