"In real life I avoid all parties altogether, but on paper I can mingle with the best of them"
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The subtext is about power and surveillance. At an actual gathering, you're subject to timing, status, misread signals, the draining unpredictability of being perceived. On paper, the writer is both guest and host: she can enter a cluster, rewind a moment, linger on a telling detail, give every stranger an interior life. "Mingle with the best of them" slyly reframes what "best" means, too. Not the loudest, not the most connected, but the most readable: the people whose contradictions can be rendered, whose manners and masks reveal something. Tyler's fiction is famous for domestic rooms, not glamorous salons; this line suggests those spaces are her parties, observed with quiet authority.
Context matters: Tyler's work consistently prizes the unshowy, the socially awkward, the people who would rather leave early. The sentence defends that temperament without sanctifying it. She isn't romanticizing isolation; she's admitting the workaround: art as a social life you can edit.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Tyler, Anne. (2026, January 17). In real life I avoid all parties altogether, but on paper I can mingle with the best of them. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-real-life-i-avoid-all-parties-altogether-but-63543/
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Tyler, Anne. "In real life I avoid all parties altogether, but on paper I can mingle with the best of them." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-real-life-i-avoid-all-parties-altogether-but-63543/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"In real life I avoid all parties altogether, but on paper I can mingle with the best of them." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-real-life-i-avoid-all-parties-altogether-but-63543/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.








