"In talking, shyness and timidity distort the very meaning of my words. I don't pretend to know anybody well. People are like shadows to me and I am like a shadow"
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“I don’t pretend to know anybody well” is a sharp little refusal. It’s not just self-protection; it’s an ethic. She won’t perform intimacy for the sake of smoothing a room. That matters in the context of an artist whose work is often described as interior, restrained, and intensely attentive to small gradations of feeling. Her subtext: closeness is hard; the performance of closeness is easier; she chooses neither.
The closing metaphor does the real damage: “People are like shadows to me and I am like a shadow.” Shadows are present but ungraspable; they imply light and distance and a body you can’t quite face. John isn’t claiming mystical alienation so much as reporting a perceptual fact: relationships register as outlines, not solids. It’s also a bleak symmetry. She doesn’t just fail to know others; she experiences herself as similarly insubstantial, already half-absent, already mis-seen. For a woman making art in a world that routinely treated women as peripheral, “shadow” lands as both confession and indictment.
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| Topic | Loneliness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
John, Gwen. (2026, January 16). In talking, shyness and timidity distort the very meaning of my words. I don't pretend to know anybody well. People are like shadows to me and I am like a shadow. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-talking-shyness-and-timidity-distort-the-very-136778/
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John, Gwen. "In talking, shyness and timidity distort the very meaning of my words. I don't pretend to know anybody well. People are like shadows to me and I am like a shadow." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-talking-shyness-and-timidity-distort-the-very-136778/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"In talking, shyness and timidity distort the very meaning of my words. I don't pretend to know anybody well. People are like shadows to me and I am like a shadow." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-talking-shyness-and-timidity-distort-the-very-136778/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





