"In the beginning, when I first found out I had a disease that was incurable, emotionally I had to get used to the idea of being sick before I could think about making any other major decisions in my life"
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The line “emotionally I had to get used to the idea of being sick” is doing double duty. On the surface, it’s practical coping. Underneath, it’s a quiet rebuke to the expectation that patients perform bravery on schedule. “Get used to” is deliberately unglamorous language, the kind you’d use for a new commute or a noisy neighbor. That ordinariness is the point: chronic illness is not a single dramatic event but a sustained condition that demands repetition, patience, and emotional budgeting.
Then she pivots to decision-making: “before I could think about making any other major decisions.” The subtext is that illness colonizes bandwidth. It doesn’t just hurt; it restructures time, ambition, relationships, and risk tolerance. Coming from an actress - someone whose career depends on momentum, appearances, and public ease - the statement lands as cultural commentary. The body becomes a constraint the industry rarely plans for, and Duffy refuses the illusion of seamless continuity. She’s insisting that adaptation is itself a major life decision, even if it’s invisible from the outside.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Duffy, Karen. (2026, January 15). In the beginning, when I first found out I had a disease that was incurable, emotionally I had to get used to the idea of being sick before I could think about making any other major decisions in my life. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-the-beginning-when-i-first-found-out-i-had-a-155212/
Chicago Style
Duffy, Karen. "In the beginning, when I first found out I had a disease that was incurable, emotionally I had to get used to the idea of being sick before I could think about making any other major decisions in my life." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-the-beginning-when-i-first-found-out-i-had-a-155212/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"In the beginning, when I first found out I had a disease that was incurable, emotionally I had to get used to the idea of being sick before I could think about making any other major decisions in my life." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/in-the-beginning-when-i-first-found-out-i-had-a-155212/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.









