"Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you"
About this Quote
The intent is both clarifying and demanding. “Sharing my reality with you” implies agency and consent, but it also implies labor. Intimacy isn’t something that “happens”; it’s something you do, intentionally, repeatedly, with the possibility of being misunderstood. The subtext: most relationships trade in safer currencies - opinions, jokes, curated updates - and call it closeness. Miller draws a line between information and presence. You can reveal facts and still keep your reality private.
Contextually, this lands well in a culture that mistakes access for connection. Social media encourages constant self-reporting, but “sharing my reality” is harder than posting highlights; it requires coherence, honesty, and the humility to admit that your reality is partial and sometimes unflattering. It also quietly shifts intimacy from the erotic to the ethical: if I share my reality, you inherit responsibility - to listen carefully, not edit it for your comfort, and not weaponize it later. That’s why it works: it makes intimacy less like a vibe and more like a contract.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Miller, Keith. (2026, January 17). Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/intimacy-as-i-am-using-it-is-sharing-my-reality-60484/
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Miller, Keith. "Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/intimacy-as-i-am-using-it-is-sharing-my-reality-60484/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/intimacy-as-i-am-using-it-is-sharing-my-reality-60484/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.






