"Is this not the true romantic feeling; not to desire to escape life, but to prevent life from escaping you"
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That reversal is the engine of the line: he takes the stock fantasy of romance as escape from the blunt weight of living and flips it into a fiercer ambition - to keep experience from slipping through your fingers. The question form is doing quiet pressure work. It doesn’t merely assert a definition; it recruits the reader into agreement, as if the “true” romantic feeling has always been there, misnamed. Wolfe’s romanticism isn’t candlelight, it’s custody.
The subtext is anxiety about time and attention. “Life” appears twice, but the verbs change the stakes: first, we’re tempted to flee it; then we’re warned it can flee us. That second possibility is more unsettling because it suggests passivity as the real threat - days lost to habit, distraction, timidity, the dull creep of adulthood. Wolfe frames romance as an act of resistance against that erosion, a way of insisting that moments count before they dissolve into memory.
Context matters: Wolfe’s novels (especially Look Homeward, Angel) are powered by appetite - for cities, bodies, language, sensation - and by the sorrow of transience. Writing itself becomes the romantic technology here: a method to “prevent life from escaping” by pinning it to the page, not as a record but as an attempt to outpace mortality. It’s a credo for anyone who suspects the tragedy isn’t that life is hard, but that it’s fast.
Quote Details
| Topic | Romantic |
|---|---|
| Source | Unverified source: You Can't Go Home Again (Thomas Wolfe, 1940)
Evidence: Page 39 (pagination varies by edition). The quote is consistently attributed to Thomas Wolfe and commonly cited as appearing in his posthumously published novel "You Can't Go Home Again" (edited/compiled by Edward Aswell). Multiple quote aggregators point to p.39, but I did not locate a digitized... Other candidates (2) Never Let a Fool Kiss You or a Kiss Fool You (Mardy Grothe, 2002) compilation95.0% ... Is this not the true romantic feeling- not to desire to escape life , but to prevent life from escaping you ? " -... Thomas Wolfe (Thomas Wolfe) compilation34.1% dence the belief and joy which are essential to creative work what christ is saying always what he never swerves from... |
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