"It doesn't much signify whom one marries, for one is sure to find next morning that it was someone else"
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Marriage, in Rogers's hands, isn't a romantic culmination; it's a practical joke played by daylight. The line lands because it takes the most solemn social contract of his era and pivots on a small, devastating shift: not "later" or "eventually", but "next morning". The timing makes the punchline feel inevitable, like a trap door built into the vows themselves. You don't just discover flaws over years; you wake up to a stranger immediately, as if intimacy is less a reveal than a misrecognition.
Rogers is writing from a world where marriage was as much property arrangement and reputation management as personal choice. His cynicism isn't merely about individual incompatibility; it's about the way society sells marriage as knowable and stable, then acts surprised when two private people refuse to stay fixed in the roles assigned to them. "It doesn't much signify whom one marries" is the deliberately blasé setup, the voice of someone who has watched the rituals up close and found them curiously indifferent to actual temperament. The sting comes in the reversal: you thought you were choosing a person, but you were choosing an unknowable future.
The subtext is both comic and bleak: we marry projections, not partners. The "someone else" isn't necessarily deception; it's the ordinary fact that a spouse, newly unboxed from courtship, contains contradictory selves. Rogers's wit works by making that psychological truth sound like a clerical error, exposing how thin our confidence is when we pretend love equals certainty.
Rogers is writing from a world where marriage was as much property arrangement and reputation management as personal choice. His cynicism isn't merely about individual incompatibility; it's about the way society sells marriage as knowable and stable, then acts surprised when two private people refuse to stay fixed in the roles assigned to them. "It doesn't much signify whom one marries" is the deliberately blasé setup, the voice of someone who has watched the rituals up close and found them curiously indifferent to actual temperament. The sting comes in the reversal: you thought you were choosing a person, but you were choosing an unknowable future.
The subtext is both comic and bleak: we marry projections, not partners. The "someone else" isn't necessarily deception; it's the ordinary fact that a spouse, newly unboxed from courtship, contains contradictory selves. Rogers's wit works by making that psychological truth sound like a clerical error, exposing how thin our confidence is when we pretend love equals certainty.
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| Topic | Marriage |
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