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"It is a sad thing when men have neither the wit to speak well nor the judgment to hold their tongues"

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A well-aimed insult disguised as etiquette advice, La Bruyere's line lands because it treats bad speech not as a harmless quirk but as a moral and social failure. He builds a trap with a clean either-or: you can contribute with wit, or you can contribute by abstaining. If you lack both, you're not merely boring; you're dangerous to the room. The sadness isn't sentimental. It's the weary disappointment of someone watching a society that mistakes noise for presence.

The subtext is courtly, and cutting. In Louis XIV's France, conversation was power: salons, patronage networks, and the Versailles ecosystem ran on reputation and performance. "Wit" wasn't just cleverness; it was a form of social intelligence, a calibrated ability to read the moment and signal belonging. "Judgment" is the deeper virtue, the one that keeps vanity from turning into public self-sabotage. La Bruyere isn't celebrating silence for its own sake. He's arguing for self-command: knowing when speech serves something larger than the ego.

The quote also sneaks in a bleak anthropology. People don't simply fail to speak well; they fail to recognize that they are failing. That second deficit is what makes the first intolerable. It's an early diagnosis of a timeless type: the person who treats every pause as an invitation and every audience as entitlement. La Bruyere's brilliance is to render that figure not outrageous but sad - because a culture full of them can't think, only chatter.

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Bruyère, Jean de La. (2026, January 17). It is a sad thing when men have neither the wit to speak well nor the judgment to hold their tongues. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-a-sad-thing-when-men-have-neither-the-wit-24126/

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Bruyère, Jean de La. "It is a sad thing when men have neither the wit to speak well nor the judgment to hold their tongues." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-a-sad-thing-when-men-have-neither-the-wit-24126/.

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"It is a sad thing when men have neither the wit to speak well nor the judgment to hold their tongues." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-a-sad-thing-when-men-have-neither-the-wit-24126/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Jean de La Bruyère

Jean de La Bruyère (August 16, 1645 - May 11, 1696) was a Philosopher from France.

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