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Marriage Quote by Dolores Ibarruri

"It is better to be the widow of a hero than the wife of a coward"

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Better to bury a brave man than live beside a frightened one: the line lands like a recruitment poster disguised as a moral axiom. Dolores Ibarruri, the Spanish Communist leader known as La Pasionaria, wasn’t offering marital advice so much as reordering values in wartime Spain, where private life was being conscripted into public struggle. In the crucible of the Spanish Civil War, courage wasn’t just a personal virtue; it was political currency, and cowardice wasn’t merely a flaw but a betrayal with consequences.

The sentence works because it turns grief into social prestige. “Widow” is the most devastating role in the domestic lexicon, yet Ibarruri flips it into a badge of honor, implying that loss can be redeemed by meaning. That’s a powerful psychological bargain to offer a population staring down casualties: if death is inevitable, let it at least be narratable as heroism. The “wife of a coward,” meanwhile, is a living critique: safety becomes shame, survival becomes complicity. The subtext is disciplinary. It tells men what they must be, and tells women what they should demand, enlisting family honor as a pressure system to keep fighters from faltering.

There’s also a hard-edged collectivism here. Individual happiness, even marriage itself, is treated as expendable next to the cause. Ibarruri’s genius and danger is the same: she makes sacrifice feel not only necessary, but morally superior. In a war of slogans, it’s a ruthless one-liner that weaponizes intimacy.

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Later attribution: The Great Thoughts, Revised and Updated (George Seldes, 2011) modern compilationISBN: 9780307775603 · ID: ZirsLPyzJEgC
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... DOLORES IBARRURI ( La Pasionara ) ( 1895-1983 ) Spanish Republican leader Mas vale morir a pie que vivir en ... It is better to be the widow of a hero than the wife of a coward . Speech , Valencia , 1936 , Paris , 1937 HENRIK ...
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Ibarruri, Dolores. "It is better to be the widow of a hero than the wife of a coward." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-better-to-be-the-widow-of-a-hero-than-the-131547/.

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"It is better to be the widow of a hero than the wife of a coward." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-better-to-be-the-widow-of-a-hero-than-the-131547/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.

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Dolores Ibarruri (November 12, 1895 - December 9, 1989) was a Politician from Spain.

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